May I urge you to read the wisdom of Portia Nelson, she really is a triumph.
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE CHAPTERS by Portia Nelson
Chap 1
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in.
I am lost ... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
Chap 2
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place. But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
Chap 3
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
Chap 4
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Chap 5
I walk down another street.
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